Building self confidence - status confidence
Confidence skills can be learned and building self confidence is something you can achieve. In this third part of the building self confidence article, we look at confidence with others.
 In this article we are looking at five elements that contribute to your level of confidence and they are:
How we think and behave in these five areas will have a big impact on our level of self confidence. Confidence with others
With a healthy level of status confidence we can truly be ourselves and live up to our full potential. Status confidence gives us the ability to easily move between the roles of leader, follower and team member as required. A status confident person will always "have a go" regardless of current perceived status. Building Confidence with OthersIf you have been reading these parts in order you will not only know that there is no magic solution to building self confidence, but will begin to feel empowered to do something at a self-help level. Practice these things and you will begin to develop better confidence among others - any others - regardless of their perceived status. Behave as if you are a king or queen. Expect people to treat you with respect and dignity. When this doesn't happen, politely request that they do, even your boss. Be realistic and do whatever your job or responsibilities require of you, but do it with a royal flair. Treat others as you would have them treat you. If you want to be treated as a king or queen, treat others the same way. Put aside fears. Fear is often the biggest barrier to becoming more confident with people of different status levels. Do not fear what another person can do to you. In most cases, they are probably more fearful of what you can do to them but they cover it up with bluff and bluster. All the same, do not be arrogant. Think of the worst thing a person can do to you, aside from killing you. Think hard about it. What ever it is, it will not mean the end of the world. Hold your head high. People belonging to a lower social group can tend to defer to others in seemingly higher groups. It can be triggered by something as simple as the clothes we wear. Begin to re-program your brain to accept that clothes, pay packet, vehicles and office floor levels do not make a person successful. Success begins from within and you have already begun to improve your level of success. You know that you will improve yourself so hold your head high now and claim that improvement. Dress for success AND comfort. It is okay to follow a dress code. Remember that you are still living in the real world and not everyone will be on a self improvement journey. You will need to maintain some appearances in order to successfully carry out your responsibilities. However, you can choose to dress for success and comfort. Choose clothes that suit your personality and convey your beliefs and values. Celebrate small victories. Becoming more status confident will take time. Be prepared to put in some effort every day and you will see success. Celebrate your victories with humility. This is not war. You are not trying to dominate those who may have been dominating you - read the top tip again (king or queen) if you are unsure of this. Select any of the five elements of self confidence below or return to the start of the building self confidence article. Confidence socially | Confidence with our peers Check out the self help resources page for books, CDs and DVDs that will help with building self confidence. Go to the top of Building Self Confidence - Status Confidence
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